Attraction online dating
Everyone knows someone who met their spouse online.
A friend of mine whom I hadn’t seen in years told me recently that she, too, met her husband on an Internet dating site.
“It may yet, and someday some service might provide good data to show it can, but there is certainly no evidence to that right now.” One downside to Internet dating has to do with one of its defining characteristics: the profile.
In the real world, it takes days or even weeks for the mating dance to unfold, as people learn each other’s likes and dislikes and stumble through the awkward but often rewarding process of finding common ground.
They’re happily married, just moved into a new house, and are now talking about starting a family.
When I asked her if she thought online matchmaking was a better way than offline dating to find guys who were more compatible with her — and, therefore, better husband material — she laughed.
Offline, that kind of attraction would spark organically.
Overall, the study found, Internet dating is a good thing, especially for singles who don’t otherwise have many opportunities to meet people.It also means that b) people may unknowingly skip over potential mates for the wrong reasons.The person you see on paper doesn’t translate neatly to a real, live human being, and there’s no predicting or accounting for the chemistry you might feel with a person whose online profile was the opposite of what you thought you wanted.That’s not necessarily a bad thing, as profiles can help quickly weed out the obviously inappropriate or incompatible partners (who hasn’t wished for such a skip button on those disastrous real-life blind dates?), but it also means that some of the pleasure of dating, and building a relationship by learning to like a person, is also diluted.